8 rules for dating my ex wife
I was in a relationship with a man who had a 10-year-old son. I was 29 years old, and the majority of my friends in Chicago were childless or childfree, whichever term you prefer. I knew that by moving back here, I was inviting many children into my day-to-day life -- and probably my love life, too. Despite all of my fears, I reconnected with this man from my youth.It turns out there is very little literature on how to date someone who has children. After running into him over a period of months, we began dating.In the four years since the birth of my daughter and the end of my relationship with her mother, I have done some dating.
I recommend waiting at least 3 months before the introduction.
If this were "my kid," we would have been doing something else. Set the boundary with the boyfriend first -- in private. When they first started having babies, they freaked out if I told their toddlers, "No! Go Ahead and Fall in Love Let that child or children into your heart. Other people's children are such a blessing in my life, and I'm honestly very sad that I don't get to spend time with my ex-boyfriend's son anymore. One of the coolest things my cousin has ever done happened at her wedding.
But I quickly learned that this wasn't my kid, and the rules were different at my boyfriend's house. So if I felt a Playstation attack coming on, I left. I invited them places and if they didn't want to go, I went with someone else or by myself. If he doesn't do anything about it if it happens again, go straight to the kid. (And I can hear the parents recoiling that the childless girl is suggesting it! She not only gave vows to her new husband, she also gave vows to her new stepson.
You might think that change shouldn’t have a significant effect on the qualities I look for in a woman, but it absolutely does.
Almost any potential mate can handle a child that is not their own coming to visit four days a month. If you feel something and have considered dating your friend’s ex, just accept the fact that the feeling is there.